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Author: Hannah Young

life coaching for women for transformation and growth

A reason, a season, or a lifetime

When we are on a journey of growth and self-development, whether through life coaching for transformation or through our own self-study, the process isn’t always easy. In fact, it can raise real areas of tension: perhaps we have to face the cold, hard truth of how much we have been neglecting ourselves. Maybe the deeper reasons for why we behave and think as we do come to the surface and pinch. And, what happens more often than not, is we realise we are outgrowing certain people in our lives.

The people could be friends, romantic partners, and even family members who we never imagined living without. But as we step into transformational growth, this can often spotlight ways in which we are no longer aligned some of the most important people in our lives.

Although this can feel uncomfortable, it’s important to remember your own agency in this; you are not forced to stay in relationships that drain you; or friendships you invest in but get nothing back.

If we can acknowledge that is our choice whether we hold on or move on, we can take back control and learn to let go with nothing but peace, love and gratitude.

And in all this, I’m reminding of the saying, “People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.”

It’s perfectly okay to loosen the grip on the ‘reason’ and ‘season’ relationships.

If you’re on the growth journey, and are wondering whether life coaching for transformation, book a no-obligation call with me to see how I can help.

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The Practice of Gratitude – The ultimate science-backed life hack

When we think of ‘practicing gratitude’, we might be quick to make judgements about journals, vague mantras or overly positive people who seem to never tire of the trials of the world. But what you may not know is that the benefits of practicing gratitude are well documented in scientific research. They go way beyond simply noticing all the great things about your life – in fact, the benefits cover all areas of our wellbeing…physical, social, and emotional.

The idea of practicing gratitude is historically and culturally quite universal. All the major religions teach that gratitude to a Creator will bring more abundance and, whether societies have practiced gratitude towards themselves, ‘Mother Nature’, the universe or God, they have done so for centuries. However, it seems only in the past few years that the practice of gratitude has become a ‘buzzword’, perhaps due to the boom in the promotion of self-care, self-love, manifestation, and wellbeing. Gratitude journals, statements of gratitude and manifesting more of the good we have in our lives have all become part of this wellbeing cultural phenomenon. Some people might dismiss it as part of a passing trend. But centuries of practice and hundreds of studies can’t be wrong!

What is gratitude?

Gratitude is an emotion – a feeling – associated with giving thanks and showing appreciation. This could be in the form of literally thanking others for their support, help, kind words or gifts; consciously acknowledging the goodness in our lives; thanking God; or even just recognising those little human interactions that restore your faith that there is good in the world. When we truly practice gratitude, we do so even at the times in our lives where it seems hard to find things to be grateful for. During times or stress and challenge, we can still acknowledge and be thankful for so much – even if this is just the roof over our heads and food on our tables.

What does Science say about gratitude?

Put simply, Science acknowledges gratitude as a bit of a superpower! Neuroplasticity is our brain’s ability to change and ‘rewire’ neural pathways throughout our life. When we practice gratitude by thanking others and acknowledging the things we are grateful for, our brain’s attention is drawn towards the positives in our lives. Over time, this new way of thinking, noticing, and attending to the positive becomes second nature to our brains. Not only this, but gratitude stimulates the neurotransmitters responsible for regulating stress responses and emotions, such as serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine.

All of this magical power taking place in our brains has a wonderful impact on our lives. Research has found that gratitude improves sleep, helps to reduce depression and anxiety, regulates stress, and even reduces pain. Not only that, but gratitude can help people overcome grief, build resilience, manage anxiety disorders, and increases the feeling of joy and happiness in our lives.

How can we practice gratitude?

There are many gratitude meditations and exercises widely available online. But, if you’d like to start now, take a look at some of the gratitude practices below.

  1. Gratitude list. Create a table with two columns. On the left side, write ‘I am grateful to…’ and on the right side, write ‘for’. Now, think of the people in your life to whom you give thanks. For example, ‘I am grateful to my best friend for giving me a shoulder to cry on’. These can we as small or as big as you’d like. It could even be something like, ‘I am grateful to the car park attendant who smiles at me every morning’.
  2. Gratitude visit. Can you think of someone who does so much for you, but you’ve never really told them how much you appreciate them? Well, pay them a visit! Visit them specifically for the purpose of telling them how thankful you are for everything they do for you.
  3. Compliments/challenges journaling. Sketch out two boxes on a piece of paper or in your journal. In one box, write down ‘Compliments I would like to pay myself today’ and in the other box, write ‘Challenges I’m facing today’. Then fill these boxes with the compliments you deserve such as ‘I look really smart and professional in my outfit today’ or ‘I was really patient waiting in line this morning’ or ‘I really made people laugh in that seminar’. Then, look at the challenges. This could be ‘I struggled to get focussed this afternoon’ or ‘I was so anxious around those new colleagues’. As the days go by, reflect on how much you have to be appreciative of yourself, even in the face of challenges every day.
  4. Gratitude photo challenge. You can do this for yourself or even post this on social media to share with your family and friends. Every day, take a photo of something you are grateful for. This could be your morning cup of coffee, a sunny day, a college acceptance letter – any moment, big or small, that makes you feel thankful.
  5. Volunteer, donate, or give back. Demonstrate your gratitude for all you have in life by giving back. You can do this by volunteering your time, donating money or your old belongings to good causes, or giving back with little acts of kindness towards those around you.

 

And finally, we really do get more of what we notice. Even if the practice of gratitude seems tough at first, then just start small. Acknowledge the little things and your brain will make room for more. Remember that we can cultivate real happiness in ourselves, our relationships and our communities by beginning with gratitude. And, whilst I’m here, let me take this opportunity to thank you for reading, and giving me the chance to share.

Finding Balance: How to Identify Areas of Your Life to Focus On

Sometimes life feels out of balance. You know something needs to change, but you’re not sure where to start. One of the most effective ways to get clarity is by exploring which areas of your life matter most to you, and the Wheel of Life is a simple, transformative tool to help you do just that (PS – it’s a tool we use together in our coaching!).

What is the Wheel of Life?

The Wheel of Life is a visual tool that breaks your life into key areas, such as health, career, relationships, finances, spirituality, and personal growth. You can adapt it to include anything important to you, like your living environment, social life, or self-care routines. By rating each area from 1 (unsatisfied) to 10 (completely satisfied), you can quickly see where your life is thriving and where change is needed.

Discover Your Priorities

Once you’ve rated your life areas, focus on the ones with the lowest scores. Start small: choose one or two areas to work on first. Some changes can be quick fixes, like improving your workspace or adjusting your daily routine. Others may take longer, like shifting career paths or building healthier habits.

Find the ‘Why’

Understanding why a particular area feels unsatisfying is key. Ask yourself: What’s missing? Why does this matter to me? This reflection helps you connect your goals to your values and uncover what truly motivates you.

Take Action

With clarity on your priorities, you can set realistic goals and actionable steps. Whether it’s boosting your energy through better nutrition, improving your work-life balance, or pursuing a new career path, knowing where to start makes transformation achievable.

The Wheel of Life isn’t just about seeing the gaps; it’s about taking meaningful steps toward a more balanced, fulfilling life. Start with small, intentional changes, and watch how they ripple across all areas of your life.

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The power of starting small

This week, I’ve been trying to get back into a running habit. Out of all the forms of exercise I’ve tried, running is the one that genuinely gives me satisfaction. I’d pick a run on a cold, rainy day over a crowded gym any time.

And this got me thinking about starting small.

I knew that if I wanted to restart, I had to start small. I had to go out with zero pressure to run the whole time. A walk–run–walk–run rhythm was not only acceptable, it was the smartest approach. And on day two or three, if I ran less than the day before, that was fine too. My only expectation was this:

If I’m getting out for a run, it means I’m running again.

And we can apply the same to other areas of life:

How often do we expect ourselves to be perfect? And when it doesn’t happen, we tell ourselves we’ve failed.

But what if we applied the same gentle formula?

I want to get back into running.

Today, I ran.

So therefore, I’m running again.

Those small steps matter. They count. And they should motivate us, not shame us.

Restarting anything – habits, routines – requires space to be human. It requires removing expectations and honouring the effort.

So here’s the question I’ll leave you with today:

What’s the small step you’re going to take today?

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Are You Spiritually Empty?

You know that feeling of waking up in the morning with a sense of dread or emptiness? Just physically moving your body out from under the duvet feels like a chore.

You go through the same morning routine, drive the same route to work and, before you know it, the end of the day has arrived. You’ve not been mindful or present for a single moment, yet your nervous system feels spent and you’re exhausted.

You’re wondering, ‘What’s missing?’ Is it the job, the relationship, health and fitness?

What if it wasn’t any of that – but a spiritual emptiness you’ve not yet acknowledged?

 

Listen to this quiet alarm

 

This feeling is a signal – your soul telling you there’s a misalignment, an overexertion or perhaps a transitional moment coming.

This quiet alarm can sneak up on us in the form of burnout, disassociation or an increasingly reliance on unhealthy habits like doom-scrolling or binge eating.

It’s time to listen.

 

What are you missing?

 

When I talk about spirituality, this doesn’t have to be faith-based. Yes, maybe you have a faith and you’d like to become more connected to it. But it may not even have to be that profound.

When’s the last time you went for a walk and actually noticed your surrounding?

When’s the last time you took a break at work and looked out of the window into the distance?

When’s the last time you noticed how that coffee tastes?

The list goes on…have you focussed on your breath recently? Walked barefoot on the grass? Relaxed in a hot bath without watching or listening to anything?

 

Make it mindful; make it spiritual

 

So, what can you do to fill this void? It doesn’t take much – just short, mindful moments of connection with yourself and the world around you.

  • Be still. Don’t force clarity — allow your mind to rest.
  • Name your needs. Journal or reflect without any pressure.
  • Let go of performance. God/faith/your soul doesn’t need you to hustle.
  • Simplify your practices. A deep breath, a walk, or 5 quiet minutes can be enough.
  • Talk to someone. A coach, mentor, or friend.

 

Even silence is a kind of spiritual communication. So allow moments of silence to hear what your soul is calling for.

 

If you’re ready to find what fills that spiritual void for you, let’s talk.

 

Forest path at sunrise - Hannah Young Life Coaching

Top 5 Tips for Making Habits Stick

1. How much time does it really take?

You may have heard that it takes 21 days to form a habit. But is that really true? Well, unfortunately it’s not quite that simple. Research suggests that the length of time it takes to truly root a habit into our daily lives is unique to everyone. For some people, 3 weeks might be enough…but for others, it could be 10 months. It also depends on the type of habit you’re trying to master. Something like drinking more water can become part of your routine quickly. Something more challenging, such as a new exercise routine, can take a lot longer to embed.

So, if we can’t rely on setting a time-related goal to help us make our new habits stick, what can we do to help? Luckily, science has plenty of answers for that too…

2. Find your ‘why’

Firstly, you need to understand the ‘why’ of your new habit. And this question really matters. Say, you want to walk for 15 minutes every day – ask yourself why you want to do this. Why walking? Why 15 minutes? Is it so that you can post pictures of the landscape on Instagram to gain more ‘likes’? Is it because you heard that your friends are doing it? Or is it because you know the psychological and physical benefits of regular, low intensity exercise? Is it because you know this habit will help you to manage stress, think more clearly and maintain a healthy weight? The ‘why’ really does matter – and it must matter to you.

3. Make it a part of your identity

Research shows that habits stick more successfully if they become part of your identity – part of who you are and what you do. Let’s take the example of running. Instead of just thinking ‘I want to run for 20 minutes, 3 times a week’, say to yourself ‘I am a runner; running is what I do’. If you first attach the identity of ‘being a runner’ to yourself, you are much more likely to maintain a routine where running regularly is just built into your week. The nice thing about this method is that it also allows you to start really small; even running for 10 minutes regularly earns you the title of being a runner. This works for everything – ‘I’m a reader’, ‘I journal’, ‘I’m a healthy eater’, ‘I meditate’…the list goes on!

4. Attach it

Do you remember first building the habit of brushing your teeth? How hard is it now for you to keep that habit? Easy, right? Well, when your parents or caregivers were first instilling that habit in you, they attached it to something you were doing anyway – waking up and getting ready for bed. Now you can’t imagine going to bed without brushing your teeth. That’s because it is attached to something you do every day anyway. So, when building a new habit, try to attach it to something you already do. For example, if you want to start journalling, attach it to when you sit down for your morning cup of tea or coffee. If you want a daily practice of yoga, do it 10 minutes before you have your morning shower. Over time, you won’t be able to do one action without the other.

5. Make it regular

I mentioned at the beginning of this article that the time it takes to secure a habit is individual to all of us. Well, the common factor in making a habit stick successfully is, of course, regularity. People who regularly practice the habit they’re trying to build have more chance of embedding it over time, and more quickly. So, why not try a ‘little and often’ approach? Rather than setting yourself a goal of walking for an hour twice a week, instead find time to walk for 15 minutes every day. It’s easy to find the time for a 15-minute walk and, if you miss a day for whatever reason, you’ll have still walked regularly over the week. If this seems too much, start even smaller – can you walk around the block for 5 minutes every day? Don’t be afraid to start with tiny steps – as long as it’s regular and consistent.

“We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.” – John Dryden

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*A version of this article was originally published in The Young Vision Magazine, United Arab Emirates